As Director of Inclusion at the Royal Institute of British Architects, I wrote a version of this blog for their website.
It was in the context of marking Stephen Lawrence Day on 22nd April 2022. The kind of work that supports the efforts of the Stephen Lawrence Day Foundation require huge amounts of allyship.
Previously, I’ve quoted Tom Ilube and his ALLIES acronym, but I’ve thought more about that, and come up with a slightly different take.
How do we acknowledge our own identities and take action to break down barriers, without taking up space, and listening to lived experiences?
This is what allyship is all about. So, pick up your CAMERA©.
Saying you are an ally is far easier than being one. Recently in the RIBA video with Danni Kerr for International Transgender Day of Visibility, she said:
“People often say to me the courage to be out as a trans person is amazing. Well, I think we’re at a time in our society which actually takes more courage to be a trans ally. So trans people are incredibly grateful. We need your support if you’re prepared to be visible as a trans ally, that’s fantastic. You’re prepared to be heard as a trans ally. And, if you’re prepared to be seen in the same space as transgender people, that speaks volumes.”
This is also true of other issues, such as race and disability. To stand up and use your position, privilege, and voice for others is powerful for those who do not have that.
You need to be prepared for the hurtful and challenging pushback, and do it anyway. You need courage.
Privilege is about unearned advantage. It’s not about money, or elitism necessarily. It’s not about what you have had to do to get where you are. It’s about understanding, seeing, and acknowledging what you’ve not had to do or navigate. Structural, institutional, and societal racial discrimination is real. Some of us from racialised groups still don’t see or feel it. Sometimes that’s because the scales have yet to fall from our eyes, sometimes it’s because we’ve not yet faced these barriers, because of our own access and ability to hold white spaces. That doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist in heavier doses for others.
If you’re white, you’ve not had to face racism. Racism is a system. It plays out in discrimination based on not being white. Whiteness is a power position. So, as a white individual, you may have faced prejudice because of what you look like, but overall in societal structures, whiteness holds power, racialised people do not.
So, whatever our background, if we’re white or non-white but still have privilege, we need to allow others to benefit from ours.
Manage mistakes well
We all make mistakes, it’s how we handle them that matters. Being an ally doesn’t mean you’ll always get it right. But when you don’t, acknowledge the mistake. Listen to how you can do things differently. Learn from the experience, reflect on the feedback, and move forward differently, ever conscious of how to be better.
Saying sorry, meaning it, and moving forward differently is an inclusion muscle that requires much exercise in order to strengthen; and like any exercise you’re not used to, it’s very uncomfortable at first, and it’s never truly easy, but it does get better the more you do it.
And, remember as an ally, the struggle for social and racial justice is not about you.
It’s not up to others to educate you about race and racism.
Take responsibility for reading, learning, being in spaces with those from racialised backgrounds, and listening and reflecting. There are a number of different RIBA Radio episodes to help with this, and this podcast episode on white shame and discomfort is challenging listening at times, but is very useful.
Recognise and believe
Making behavioural changes to support others and being vocal about issues of social and racial justice doesn’t necessarily mean being an activist and campaigning. It’s about being cognisant that it’s endemic in our society, and therefore, in our organisations there are structural biases. We must look to dismantle these. Therefore, the likelihood that a non-white person saying to you “I’ve experienced racism” and that experience being real, is extremely high. So, believe them.
Remember, it’s not about intention, it’s about impact. Not many organisations or individuals set out to be discriminatory, but if the impact is discrimination we cannot deny this, and must create procedural changes to mitigate it.
Advocate for others
Amplifying the voices and needs of others, especially when they’re not in the room, and before sharing your own, is a powerful tool of the ally.
Think about those perspectives not apparent and share some of your knowledge based on your learning about the issues at play. Support those with lived experiences other than your own and vocally challenge those who shared prejudiced or biased thinking or behaviours.
It’s not easy being an ally. It requires daily conscious work, and this is where Cultural Intelligence (CQ) – helps you to process the discomfort of these moments and work towards behaving more inclusively and vocally for others.
This is your choice: pick up your CAMERA, apply your CQ lens, and take a deep look into the image of society you need to influence, remove the filters that have been shrouding your vision, open the aperture, and let the light flood in; or don’t.
Emeli Sande sings in Professor Green’s Read All About it Part III:
You’ve got a heart as loud as lions
So why let your voice be tamed?
Maybe we’re a little different
There’s no need to be ashamed
You’ve got the light to fight the shadows
So stop hiding it away
Come on, come on…
Yeah, we’re all wonderful, wonderful people
So when did we all get so fearful?
Now we’re finally finding our voices
So take a chance, come help me sing this
Find your courage. Use your voice. Take the struggle as your own. Bear your mistakes. Take up the mantle. Hold up others.
And, come on. Come help me sing this, for yourselves. For society. For Stephen.
- RIBA Radio – a series of podcasts focused on promoting diversity and inclusion within the architecture profession, underpinned by the key themes of CQ.
- What White People Can Do Next: From Allyship to Coalition, Emma Dabiri, Penguin Books 2021
- We Wish We Knew What to Say: Talking with Children about Race, Pragya Agarwal, Dialogue Books 2020
- Demanding More: Why Diversity and Inclusion don’t happen and what you can do about it, Sheree Atcheson, Kogan Page 2021
- Forbes article: Allyship – The Key To Unlocking The Power Of Diversity by Sheree Atchseon
- Harvard Business Review: Be A Better Ally
(A version of this blog was first published on architecture.com on 21st April 2022. CAMERA as an acronym for the traits of allyship is Marsha Ramroop’s original work, and I assert copyright over the term in this usage).